Wank, Likes and Tone
Aug. 5th, 2005 05:49 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
misscamHarry Potter fandom wanks on
CSI fandom is apparently also behaving wanky. So. Much. Wank. Why, oh why? There are days I wonder why I'm still about - but I guess I'm too fond of fanfic writing and reading to really bugger off. Plus, you do meet some very neat people. *waves to flist*
Everyone keeps saying how fandom is like high school, but of course, I never went to high school. The Norwegian school system is somewhat different, as is the culture. Does make me wonder who I am in this fandom-high-school set-up, though. Mean girl? Quiet girl? Popular girl? Or all at once and neither? I'm not really sure I fit in any particular category. Maybe I should invent one for myself.
It did get me thinking about how you meet people online and form a liking to them - or not. It's impossible for me to judge how likeable I myself am, of course, but I have certain likeable traits (unless you're all just stringing me along, you cruel people). But I certainly have my bad sides, among them a tendency to hold grudges. And I remember slights. And once I've decided to dislike someone, I certainly don't change my mind easily.
Recently, I came to realise that someone I've known quite a while, and even was on friendly terms with a while, I now quite dislike. I also realised that I've been disliking her for quite some time, but had been trying to overcome it. I couldn't really exactly pinpoint why I disliked her. I'm sure some of you know that feeling - it's a bugger, as you get annoyed with yourself for feeling as you do and really, feel like there should be some justification for the dislike. At least that's how I tend to feel. People can be quite nice to me and I can still dislike them. There's not even always a seemingly logical reason to it. (And don't get all paranoid - said person is not on my flist.)
So what is likeability really? Is it sometimes as simple as two people meeting when both having a good day and dislike can be as simple as the same two having a bad day?
I think a lot is to do with tone - online, what you have are words and how those words were written and how they are read can differ. I know in the past I've gotten offended by how I felt the tone of a post to, without the poster neccessarily intending any offence. And really, it's hard to say who's right and who's wrong in such cases. You can be offensive without intension and offence can be found where none is, since words are always interpreted.
And then I think maybe it isn't so odd there's so much wank about anyway.
And then I think I should think less and write fanfic while ogling males instead. (Mmm, icon.)
So, as a fitting meme - comment with something likeable about me, and I shall reply with something likeable about you.
Or if that bores you or you've newly friended me - ask me any four questions you want and I'll answer and increase your knowledge of me (and maybe even my likeability, or lack thereof).
CSI fandom is apparently also behaving wanky. So. Much. Wank. Why, oh why? There are days I wonder why I'm still about - but I guess I'm too fond of fanfic writing and reading to really bugger off. Plus, you do meet some very neat people. *waves to flist*
Everyone keeps saying how fandom is like high school, but of course, I never went to high school. The Norwegian school system is somewhat different, as is the culture. Does make me wonder who I am in this fandom-high-school set-up, though. Mean girl? Quiet girl? Popular girl? Or all at once and neither? I'm not really sure I fit in any particular category. Maybe I should invent one for myself.
It did get me thinking about how you meet people online and form a liking to them - or not. It's impossible for me to judge how likeable I myself am, of course, but I have certain likeable traits (unless you're all just stringing me along, you cruel people). But I certainly have my bad sides, among them a tendency to hold grudges. And I remember slights. And once I've decided to dislike someone, I certainly don't change my mind easily.
Recently, I came to realise that someone I've known quite a while, and even was on friendly terms with a while, I now quite dislike. I also realised that I've been disliking her for quite some time, but had been trying to overcome it. I couldn't really exactly pinpoint why I disliked her. I'm sure some of you know that feeling - it's a bugger, as you get annoyed with yourself for feeling as you do and really, feel like there should be some justification for the dislike. At least that's how I tend to feel. People can be quite nice to me and I can still dislike them. There's not even always a seemingly logical reason to it. (And don't get all paranoid - said person is not on my flist.)
So what is likeability really? Is it sometimes as simple as two people meeting when both having a good day and dislike can be as simple as the same two having a bad day?
I think a lot is to do with tone - online, what you have are words and how those words were written and how they are read can differ. I know in the past I've gotten offended by how I felt the tone of a post to, without the poster neccessarily intending any offence. And really, it's hard to say who's right and who's wrong in such cases. You can be offensive without intension and offence can be found where none is, since words are always interpreted.
And then I think maybe it isn't so odd there's so much wank about anyway.
And then I think I should think less and write fanfic while ogling males instead. (Mmm, icon.)
So, as a fitting meme - comment with something likeable about me, and I shall reply with something likeable about you.
Or if that bores you or you've newly friended me - ask me any four questions you want and I'll answer and increase your knowledge of me (and maybe even my likeability, or lack thereof).
