There is just one word for this....

[misscam]

Fuck.

So my brother, who was staying for Christmas, was originally due to go home today. But then a friend - well, friend of a friend, mostly - of his died. Aged 22. Not directly due to an overdose, but due to drugs causing a heart failure.

Fuck.

22, for crying out loud. The world is so fucked up and then we fuck ourselves up to match. Spleeeendid. So brother is staying for the funeral and I am trying to think of ways to cheer him up. Mostly involving watching silly stuff on TV and slaughtering computer enemies.

Humans. Why, oh why, do we do so much stupid shit to ourselves? And chill, my brother is not doing any drugs. He just has friends from school who have ended up all the wrong places. Don't we all have one of those?

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[kasuchi]

I am so sorry. I honestly cannot relate, but loss is loss is loss. I offer your brother (and you, for being there for him) my most profound sympathies. There was a kid at my school who died of an auto accident - just barely 18 - who was a friend of a friend of a friend. It's just...it puts life in perspective in the worst way possible.

[sinneahtes.livejournal.com]

*hugs* :(

[mademoisellenon.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry...

Not trying to excuse the boy's behaviour but sometimes all of us need to escape, some more so than others. Those who are not as strong are taking the relatively easy way out that the drugs provide.

He was my age then. I abhor clichés but maybe now he's at peace. Who knows.

[siraj.livejournal.com]

Please pass along my condolences.

Might I reccommend a Doctor Who marathon? And perhaps some chess, if either of you play? Anubis knows thinking about the moves ahead in chess gets my mind off of other things...

A good, long WoW session would probably help, too.

[pass-the-vics.livejournal.com]

Humans. Why, oh why, do we do so much stupid shit to ourselves?

I think some of us are genetically predisposed to develop problems of this kind, while other people try it, stop it and move on. I really believe that addiction of any kind is a disease, just like alcoholism, which usually goes hand in hand with other drugs. I don't think this kid had much of a choice. But it saddens me that there was no one in his community that took notice and could have introduced him to a treatment program or 12-step-program. But then of course, it was up to him to make this decision and actively engage in that type of change.

Some of us get it and some don't, and a huge percentage of addicts will never get a chance to experience life the way 'normal' people do.

I've lost friends before, and it's never easy to have to watch them spiral out of control. You just hope and wish that they will get it, before 'it' gets them.

Good luck

♥

[gehayi.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry, Cam.

I second the motion for a Doctor Who marathon. Not only for the distraction value, but because the Doctor is all about hope in the face of soul-crushing despair and going on despite astronomical odds.

In fact, I wish I could procure berths on the TARDIS for your brother and you right now.

[chicklet73.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry...

[chem-nerd.livejournal.com]

*Hugs like whoa* Dr. Who Marathon sounds like an excellent idea. Perhaps follow it up with some Monty Python. And lots of chocolate, of course.

[aervir.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear that. My condolences to your brother and my sympathy to you, too.

Silly stuff on TV sounds like a good way of taking his mind off things. Everything's probably better right at the moment than thinking too much about what just happened...

[belegcuthalion.livejournal.com]

I'm very sorry, Camilla.

[lotus79.livejournal.com]

Oh, that's awful. Hugs to Marius, 22 is far too young.

Humans are inexplicable.

[padawanpooh.livejournal.com]

*big hugs* I know what it's like to lose someone so young - not through drugs - she had a brain aneurysm - but it feels like such a hideous waste of life.

I don't have any answers, or any cliches, but my love & thoughts are with you and your brother.

[space-oddity-75.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry! Please pass on my condolences to your brother. *HUGS*

A distant cousin of mine passed away a few years ago because of drug abuse. He was 32 (the age I am now) and his death was devastating for the whole family. A life wasted for nothing... It's scary to see how many victims of drug addiction are often very young. *is saddened by the tought*

[maureenlycaon.livejournal.com]

Shit!

I'm sorry to hear this. *hugs if you and/or your brother want* And I agree with the Doctor Who marathon idea.

[falena]

Words seem so useless and empty.
I do know what it's like losing someone my age, though, so I'm sending you your brother lots of love.

[ligaras.livejournal.com]

I'm really sorry to hear that :(
NO time is ever a good time, especially under those circumstances, but winter has to be the worst time.

Hang in there for your brother, I'll be thinking of the both of you.

-G.

[anamin.livejournal.com]

:(

[wintergreen126.livejournal.com]

oh gosh. i'm so sorry to hear that. i hope your brother's doing ok! my friend's brother goes to school with me, and just a few weeks ago, when crossing the street, her brother's friend was hit by a car. her brother was just behind him in the street and was somehow missed. and the driver, of course, was fine. the friend, though, was DOA. he had been visiting from another school for the weekend. also 22.

we do live in a fucked up world. and it sucks.

[littlezink.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear that Cam. Anytime someone is lost tragically, especially someone so young, it really makes you question the world we live in. I've lost two uncles in a round about way to drugs and alcohol and to me there's just never any sense to be made of it.

Doctor Who is good....I'm also partial to Monty Python when life feels so wrong that I just need something completely mindless to laugh at.

[little-baldwin.livejournal.com]

A friend of mine from middle school died of heroine overdose at the beginning of last year. She was nineteen, and had two infant children. I understand the situation, and I really wish there was some way to console him. But *HUGS* to you and yours, Cam.

[munchkin62.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

I'm worried...

[anybodybutsara.livejournal.com]

Anybody heard from Miss Cam?
;(

[jenbachand.livejournal.com]

Just checking in on you and the brother. Everything going ok? How's your weather. Houston has actually been cold for almost 3 weeks in a row. It's been very odd for our winter to be this cold for so long.

Hope everything is ok.

Re: I'm worried...

[lotus79.livejournal.com]

She emailed me yesterday; She's been away for the weekend, and busy with work this week, she says.

Re: I'm worried...

[anybodybutsara.livejournal.com]

Ah...

Well, as long as she's okay...

We had a few days of snow, but it didn't last...

Today it's 9 degrees here in NY!...Brrr...

;P

[gabz33.livejournal.com]

Ohshit.

No fun. No fun at all. Depressing, actually.

You - and your brpther - have my full sympathy.

The world is so fucked up and then we fuck ourselves up to match.

It's the society, baby.

[gabz33.livejournal.com]

BTW, happy early birthday! If you send me a POB number and adress, I'll send you a present, all the way from Israel.