Ah, them fandom grudges...
Mar. 6th, 2007 09:23 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
misscamSo will the love at T&C get as many comments as the hate? Fandom being fandom, somehow, I think not.
And I see past grudges come out to play a bit, too. And possibly new ones forming, who knows.
Funny how negativity comes out in such strong bursts sometimes. Is it because the rest of the time we're meant to play nice, so that when the gates are opened, a deluge follow? Or are we humans just a little hateful now and then?
Is quite interesting how people who start out all "I just want everyone to like me!" can be the most venomous of all at times too. Let's face it, you're never going to like everyone and not everyone will like you. Some people just don't click.
Course, not clicking with someone needn't lead to fandom grudges in itself. Usually needs a bit more. Maybe the person has done one thing you just can never get over and judge all behaviour thereafter in light of it. Maybe the other person started with the grudging - or at least so it feels to you - and you're just following up. Maybe a dozen little things all added up. Maybe there were Icon Wars. Maybe there were Fanfic Wars. Maybe you took up the grudge in the name of a friend you felt wronged. Maybe, maybe, maybe. There's probably as many different ways to gain one as there are people in fandom. We're probably not even aware of forming them at times. I know I have a few it's hard for me to pinpoint exactly why I have. There's no one thing I can trace them back to. Other times, there definitely are.
Like a nasty falling out with a friend. Now that might cause one of the worst grudges one can have. It's like all the good feelings you've had for that person now become poison. Legendary grudge wanks often involve former friends, it seems.
And of course all good grudges need fuel, or they tend to wither and die like a limp souffle. Err. Something like that.
In the end, maybe it's helpful to let out a little hate now and then, rather than saving it up for a hate meme that then spirals totally out of control. Or maybe not letting it out lets it die quietly as it should and fandom goes back to puppies, rainbows and porn.
What do you think? Got grudges that live? Got grudges who died? Hate hatememes or think them needed? Does fandom get with the hate, or is it just a few troublemakers stirring shit? Curious about grudges I might have? I am bored, so opine on me. Grudge-holders and grudge-less alike welcome.
And I see past grudges come out to play a bit, too. And possibly new ones forming, who knows.
Funny how negativity comes out in such strong bursts sometimes. Is it because the rest of the time we're meant to play nice, so that when the gates are opened, a deluge follow? Or are we humans just a little hateful now and then?
Is quite interesting how people who start out all "I just want everyone to like me!" can be the most venomous of all at times too. Let's face it, you're never going to like everyone and not everyone will like you. Some people just don't click.
Course, not clicking with someone needn't lead to fandom grudges in itself. Usually needs a bit more. Maybe the person has done one thing you just can never get over and judge all behaviour thereafter in light of it. Maybe the other person started with the grudging - or at least so it feels to you - and you're just following up. Maybe a dozen little things all added up. Maybe there were Icon Wars. Maybe there were Fanfic Wars. Maybe you took up the grudge in the name of a friend you felt wronged. Maybe, maybe, maybe. There's probably as many different ways to gain one as there are people in fandom. We're probably not even aware of forming them at times. I know I have a few it's hard for me to pinpoint exactly why I have. There's no one thing I can trace them back to. Other times, there definitely are.
Like a nasty falling out with a friend. Now that might cause one of the worst grudges one can have. It's like all the good feelings you've had for that person now become poison. Legendary grudge wanks often involve former friends, it seems.
And of course all good grudges need fuel, or they tend to wither and die like a limp souffle. Err. Something like that.
In the end, maybe it's helpful to let out a little hate now and then, rather than saving it up for a hate meme that then spirals totally out of control. Or maybe not letting it out lets it die quietly as it should and fandom goes back to puppies, rainbows and porn.
What do you think? Got grudges that live? Got grudges who died? Hate hatememes or think them needed? Does fandom get with the hate, or is it just a few troublemakers stirring shit? Curious about grudges I might have? I am bored, so opine on me. Grudge-holders and grudge-less alike welcome.
